Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” is a book written by Lundy Bancroft, a counselor and author who specializes in working with men who exhibit abusive and controlling behavior. The book aims to help people understand the behavior of abusive men and to provide strategies for dealing with this type of behavior.
In the book, Bancroft explains that abusive and controlling men often exhibit patterns of behavior that can be difficult for their partners and others to understand. These patterns may include manipulation, intimidation, blame-shifting, and other tactics that are designed to control and dominate others. Bancroft argues that understanding these patterns of behavior is key to being able to effectively address and intervene in abusive relationships.
One of the main themes of “Why Does He Do That?” is the idea that abusive and controlling behavior is not the result of mental illness or a lack of self-control, but rather a choice that is made by the abuser. Bancroft argues that abusive men often choose to use abusive tactics as a means of exerting power and control over their partners and others. He also emphasizes the importance of holding abusers accountable for their behavior, rather than excusing or minimizing it.
“Why Does He Do That?” has received widespread praise for its insights into the minds and behaviors of abusive men, and it has been widely cited as a valuable resource for victims of abuse and their advocates. The book is available for purchase in both print and electronic formats, and it may also be available at libraries or through interlibrary loan. It is worth noting that while the book is widely available, it may not be possible to find a free PDF version due to copyright restrictions.